Silent Devotion

Discover the Facts on Why Women Break Up With Men Men

Has this query ever crossed your mind? Why is it that women dump men? Time and time again you’ll hear a man make the comment that his girlfriend or wife just broke up with him. It’s puzzling, seeing as he treated her well and it seemed that he really worshipped her.

Have you been told that “nice guys finish last”? Well, that statement is partially true. Many women aren’t as self assured as they could be and any women who is a little insecure will sometimes wonder why a really great guy would want her. If you appear to be madly in love with her, she will think you have some sort of problem.

Does every female have that view? Nope, of course not! Many women have the self assurance to know what they want in a man and they’ll expect to be treated well or they’ll get out of the relationship. But Many women subscribe to the “grass is always greener” mentality. The man of their dreams could be the next one they meet.

What happens when a lady ends the relationship for no reason? The number one rule is NO CONTACT, not by phone, email, or in person. Blinded by her own selfishness, she was unable to see what you had to offer.

Don’t behave like your world has ended, go out and have a real life. Get out of the house and even date a little. When you start dating, you may be lucky enough to find a woman who is confident enough in herself to appreciate all that you have to offer her.

The reality check is deciding whether or not you can handle a relationship full of her insecurities. Think about it? Is she really worth it? You have to give your beloved the the freedom, the space and time to widen her horizons on her own. It is very possible to mend a relationship if the trust is present.

If you have not called lately, you can expect she will likely call you. Be friendly, but aloof. Don’t share much about your life. And don’t ask a lot about hers. And cut the call short. You want to allow her the opportunity to recognize you as her ideal man.

Basically, she’s going to have to earn the right to have you for a boyfriend or lover. Let HER chase you, not the other way around. And if you finally let her catch you, hold a little of yourself back for a while. Remember, she’s not sure what to do if you’re really nice, so don’t give so much.

Am I saying treat her bad? No way! Just stay a little more independent of her this time. If you really want to save your relationship, these are the steps that can make it happen!

Get Motivated Fast — 3 Ways to a New Perspective

Zig Ziglar is a motivational mastermind, and reminded us that motivation fades. This means that in order to stay motivated, we need a daily boost.

We need motivation in order to push beyond the ordinary and the mediocre. Whether it’s losing that last 10 pounds, or taking on that tough project at work, or a business venture, motivation wins out. Inertia is a huge factor in our lives.

If you’re going in a particular direction, inertia will keep you going that way unless you apply force. See if your body keeps going when you pull up to a stop sign in your car.

Inertia can work for you, because once you get going, you’ll tend to keep going. The challenging part is to get things started (and re-started), and that’s where motivation comes in.

Below are 3 ways to get your momentum going, get inspired, and out of a rut.

Select a mantra — Using a mantra can have some advantages. You can use it every day to remove negative thoughts and clear the way for positive things. A mantra is traditionally a sound or series of sounds that are repeated over and over again during meditation sessions. But a mantra can become much more than that.

Guy Kawasaki tells us that we can replace long mission statements with mantras. Short and to the point, we can rely on mantras to calm us and give us strength.

Mantras can also act as guiding principles for behavior and help with decision making. Google’s “do no harm” philosophy is a mantra for how to do business.

Mantras should be short, only a few words long at most. You can choose any mantra you like, and you can choose several of them for use in different situations. You can use them for meditation sessions as well as a sort of battle cry when you need strength and confidence. You can also use them to calm yourself when decisions need to be made.

Do something physical — When we feel a certain way, we reflect that in our bodies. As goes the mind, so goes the body. Pretend you’re depressed for a moment. What does your body do? Your shoulders slump, your eyes head toward the ground, and your head faces down. Can you feel that?

Now, try using your body to prevent a depressed feeling from overtaking you. Stand up tall showing off your best posture. Smile. Lift your arms and put them straight out at your sides to form a cross with your body. Tilt your head back and stare up at the ceiling. Lift one foot off the floor and hum out loud.

It’s hard to be depressed while smiling in that pose. Now, ask yourself what you can do physically every day to improve your state of mind. Maybe it’s standing in this pose, maybe it’s lifting weights, or maybe it’s yoga. Whatever your preference, do something physical daily to get motivated.

Time travel — This exercise will get you motivated as fast as anything I know. We all know that hindsight is 20/20. In each and every moment, we have choices to make. I hear people say that they have no choice. This is not true. You can eat the fattening dessert or not. You can do right or you can do wrong. You always have a choice.

After the fact, we sometimes regret the choices we made in the past. Worse, we delude ourselves into thinking we had no choice and still don’t.

Try this out. Imagine your future. Think about what it’s like in your future a few years from now. Now, look back at the present moment that you’re in right now. Given the opportunity, what would you have done differently?

What can you do right now to make that future that you want become a reality? Say it out loud. Write it down. Make a plan. Now, go do it.

These are just a few of the ways that you can bend your reality just a bit and get motivated. There’s no limit to the ways that you can gain control of your future if you’ll just apply a few simple principles.